For couples · Private by design

Hard talks, held softly.

Accordial gives you space to feel it, structure to say it, and a quiet AI that helps it land. No names. No profiles. No streaks.

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Anonymous, by architectureFree for both partnersTherapists & coaches when you want them
Translated softly
before it lands
2.8 day average
down from 4+
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Household responsibilities
RESOLVED · PREVIEWDay 2
☆
YOU SHARED · 2H AGO
Your raw vent (private)
"I'm sick of being the only one who does anything around here."
Translated for Honey Bear
"Starlight feels overwhelmed by the household workload. She'd love to feel like an equal partner."
H
HONEY BEAR SHARED · 1D AGO
Translated for you
"Michael feels his contributions go unnoticed. He wants to feel appreciated too."
What you both share
The gap isn't effort. It's visibility.
Read more
Choose your path
All options are equally valid.
We're good
Mark as resolved
Go deeper
Explore the pattern
Take a break
Sit with this
Tuesday, April 15
Hey Starlight
2 issues · 3 merits with Honey Bear
Relationship pulse
Tap score for details
9
Resolved
2.8
Avg days
Active issues
By you
Household responsibilities
Waiting for response · 2h
By Honey Bear
My work schedule stress
Waiting for your response · 1d
Recent appreciation
From Honey BearYesterday
“Thank you for handling the parent-teacher conference solo. You always make the kids feel supported.”
You sent2 days ago
“Thank you for making coffee every morning without me asking. It’s the kind of quiet care I’d miss if it stopped.”
From Honey Bear4 days ago
“The way you handled my mom’s call on Sunday was really patient. I noticed.”
home
activity
insights
you
01 · The problem we kept seeing

The same fight, on a four-day loop.

Most couples don't fight about the dishes. They fight about how it landed. By the time anyone says what they actually meant, it's three days later and someone's sleeping on the couch. The argument outlives the issue.

65–70%of couples report communication as an ongoing issue1
1 Olson et al., synthesised across Journal of Marriage and Family and Gottman Institute research.
A typical week — without us
Mon · Comment lands wrong at dinnerDay 0
Tue · Cold tea. Nobody brings it up+1d
Wed · Argument about something else+2d
Thu · Apology that fixes neither thing+3d
Fri · Same fight, slightly worse+4d
02 · The three moments

Every hard talk goes through three moments.

Accordial holds space for each one — separately, in order, in your own time.

01 · Converse

Say it, without sending it.

Draft freely. The AI flags words that escalate, suggests what you actually mean, and never sends a thing without your OK.

Converse
Appreciate
Advise
What's bothering you?
Creates an issue with Honey Bear
I'm sick of being the only one who does anything around here. He just sits on the couch while I'm cleaning, cooking, and taking care of everything
Share with AI
  • Private until you choose to share
  • Soften, don't summarise
  • Your raw words stay yours
02 · Talk

Exchange, don't escalate.

Messages land in turns. You write. They read when ready. Reply when calmer. One cycle is usually enough to shift the whole argument.

Back
Household responsibilities
RESOLVED · PREVIEWDay 2
☆
YOU SHARED · 2H AGO
Your raw vent (private)
"I'm sick of being the only one who does anything around here."
Translated for Honey Bear
"Starlight feels overwhelmed by the household workload. She'd love to feel like an equal partner."
H
HONEY BEAR SHARED · 1D AGO
Translated for you
"Michael feels his contributions go unnoticed. He wants to feel appreciated too."
What you both share
The gap isn't effort. It's visibility.
Read more
Choose your path
All options are equally valid.
We're good
Mark as resolved
Go deeper
Explore the pattern
Take a break
Sit with this
  • Asynchronous by design
  • One pass before the next
  • Closes when both feel resolved
03 · Understand

Notice the pattern.

Accordial surfaces what keeps coming back, and what you're already getting better at — together. Trends, not verdicts. Never a winner.

Insights
By week
By month
Monthly summary · April
Things are improving. Resolution time dropped from 4.1 to 2.8 days, intensity is trending lower, and you've exchanged 11 appreciations — a 1.2:1 merit-to-issue ratio (up from 0.6:1 last month).
Appreciation : issue ratio
1.2:111 merits · 9 issues
78
Talk
Quality
85
Resolve
Rate
62
Safety
Emotional
Resolution
2.8d
↓ 1.3d faster
Intensity
0.45
↓ cooling down
Who creates issues
You · 68%Honey Bear · 32%
You create most issues but also send more appreciations.
home
activity
insights
you
  • Recurring themes, named gently
  • Appreciations counted too
  • No streaks, no scoreboard
03 · Who Accordial is for

Three stages, one quiet place to land.

Stage 01 · Dating

Whether you're building something real

Two people working out what fits and what doesn't. Soft enough for early days, honest enough to surface what shouldn't get glossed over.

  • Translate hard things gently
  • Notice the recurring rough edges
  • Spot the things worth saying out loud
  • Roots: 100 pre-marriage questions, answered apart, reflected together
— What it feels like
Converse
Appreciate
Advise
What's bothering you?
Creates an issue with Honey Bear
I'm sick of being the only one who does anything around here. He just sits on the couch while I'm cleaning, cooking, and taking care of everything
Share with AI
04 · Anonymous, by architecture

The only relationship platform that doesn't know you.

We made architectural choices that cost us growth tactics other companies rely on. Referral graphs. Contact-import. Lookalike audiences. Those required knowing you. We chose not to.

Read the architecture in full
  • N/A
    Your name.
    No legal-name field exists.
  • N/A
    Your email.
    Not collected. You sign in with a username.
  • N/A
    Your card number.
    App Store handles every cent.
  • N/A
    Your partner's contact.
    Opaque pairing code, not an address book entry.
05 · When you want a human

Coaches and therapists, when you want them.

Book anonymously either way. Coach sessions run in-app, paid through the App Store. Therapist sessions continue in the therapist's own practice.

Licensed therapists

For when it's bigger than a tool.

Board-certified clinicians who skip three hours of intake. You book a time, they confirm, and the session runs in their own practice. The AI brief they request is built from your conversations — anonymised — so session one already feels like session two.

120–180per session
Their toolstheir practice
24 statesand growing
How it works for therapists
Relationship coaches

For the in-between work.

Vetted coaches with their own audiences and methods. Not therapy. Not advice columns. A vetted human voice on the line, while you stay anonymous on your phone.

60–140per session
30–50 minyour audio
Vettedby clinical lead
How it works for coaches
Still wondering

Questions, answered plainly

Do I need my partner to sign up too?
Yes. Accordial only works in pairs. You can invite them when you create your account, and they can join when they're ready. Until they do, your entries stay private to you.
What does the AI actually do?
It reads what you write and offers gentle reframes, flags escalating language, and surfaces patterns over time. It never takes sides, never picks winners, and never sends anything without your approval.
Is this therapy?
No. Accordial is a communication tool, not a substitute for therapy. We'll occasionally suggest talking to a professional when something sounds bigger than we can hold, and we'll point you to one.
Who can see my entries?
Only you, until you send something. Your conversations are encrypted at rest. We never sell them or use them to train AI models.
Does it work for us if we fight in real time?
Especially then. Accordial is designed around asynchronous exchange. You write, they read when ready, reply when calmer. Most couples find one cycle is enough to shift a whole argument.
How much does it cost?
Free starts with 7 days of full Steady access, then settles into one conversation per month plus one appreciation per day, forever. Steady is $20/month for unlimited conversations, weekly insights, and the AI pre-session brief. Whole is $35/month and adds the co-parenting toolkit, real-time insights, court-ready export, and 5% off every coach session with no cap. See the pricing page for the full breakdown.

The next hard talk doesn't
have to hurt like the last one.

Free for both partners. No streaks. No nudges. No name on file.

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